December 5, 2011


The mental image of your own teenage child having sex is a pretty gruesome one, almost paedophilic. It’s really hard not to see them as much too young, innocent and in need of our protection. Sex seems dirty, a spoiling of something pure. But things look very different from a teenager’s perspective. Adolescence is all […]

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November 21, 2011


Teenagers drink alcohol for all of the same reasons as adults. Booze oils the wheels of any social situation. It eliminates fear and inhibition. I still find it hard walking into a room full of people without a glass of wine for moral support even though I am 54. Thank God I don’t also have […]

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November 4, 2011


  One of the tricky things about living with a teenager is that you move, overnight from knowing everything about them to knowing next to nothing at all. You walk into a room while they are on the phone; they walk out. You ask who that was, they say mind your own business They start […]

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October 24, 2011


Any reflective surface from shop windows to fridge doors provides crucial feedback to a teenage girl on how she looks and who she is becoming. For a mother in mid-life every mirror offers the same terrifying perspective and needs to be turned to the wall. Sags, bulges and wrinkles become enlarged to horror show proportions. […]

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feeling misunderstood 2

October 7, 2011


Grown ups can make dangerous assumptions about teenagers –          That they need to rebel in order to grow up (actually if they feel they have to rebel there is usually something wrong) –          That feeling misunderstood and spending hours brooding in their bedroom is a healthy symptom of adolescence (again this is a sign that […]

feeling misunderstood

September 29, 2011


Teenagers do not hold the monopoly on this……… –          I am not trying to ruin their fun if I want a fifteen year old to be home by midnight. I just need to know she is safe (and to sleep myself) –          I am not being ‘stressy’ when I get cross about the fact that […]

back to school

September 10, 2011


It is September, not January which always feels like the beginning of a new year to me.  The six weeks of summer may stretch endlessly ahead in July, but by the end of August they have vanished too quickly. The lack of routine through the long summer holiday can feel overwhelming and chaotic but these […]

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