November 30, 2013


If you want to improve relations with your teenager in just 90 minutes, take them to see PHOENIX at the Big House Theatre in Hackney. This is a remarkable play performed by young people who have been in care, relating with brutal honesty what it can feel like to lose parents and then to lose […]

Posted in: charity


April 28, 2013


In the midst of all the lies which surround affairs, parents easily lie to themselves about their children. They are too young to understand what is happening. They cannot see what is going on. It doesn’t concern them, or affect them. In fact, children and young people are likely to be keenly aware of what […]

Posted in: infidelity


February 27, 2013


The ‘we’ve seen your boob song’ at the Oscars ceremony from ‘comedian’ Seth MacFarlane is the last straw for me. It’s war now, a war against misogyny that middle aged mothers like me have no choice but to fight not just for their daughters but for all young women. In the last few weeks we’ve […]

Posted in: feminism

things girls should know about…..the yummy side of love

February 12, 2013


My daughter thinks that ‘love (part 1)’ smacks of too much cynicism from someone who has been happily married for 25 years. So here are some other happier, lighter shades…… 1 – Love isn’t just the red of rose or a heart shaped kiss. It’s multicoloured, mesmeric and constantly surprising. But if love has to […]

things girls should know about ……love part 1

February 6, 2013


1 – There isn’t just one soul mate – One True Love, Mr or Mrs Right hovering around the next corner. There are dozens, hundreds, even thousands of people you could have a fabulous, loving time with. The soul mate theory of love may be seductive but it can also be deeply problematic. It seduces […]

things girls should know about…..boys

January 29, 2013


1) They might seem to ooze confidence and braggadocio, but most boys, of all ages, are at least as terrified of us as we are of them. Many are more so. That’s why they like to hunt together in packs. And that’s why they brag about their triumphs to each other, triumphs which are in […]

things girls should know about…….bodies

January 23, 2013


I was on Woman’s Hour with Steve Biddulph discussing the difficulties girls face today. Here is the link if you want to have a listen: Womans_Hour_Steve_Biddulph_Diane_Abbott_comfort_food/ They were flooded with emails so I decided to add these few tips to the blog in the hope that they might help. What else do you think […]